RECHARGE YOUR
ENERGY by Jenna Avery www.highlysensitivesouls.com
As a
sensitive soul, good energy-management skills are a must. This means tuning in
to yourself on a regular basis and continually reassessing and adjusting what
you take on. It's a real balancing act. And sometimes, despite your best
intentions, your energy gets drained and you feel out of balance. The key, then,
is to know how to quickly and easily recharge your energy.
Some of why
this situation happens is that highly sensitive people are more susceptible to
overstimulation than less sensitive types. Being overstimulated ultimately
drains your energy. You may not notice the drain right away because it can also
produce an adrenaline rush, which creates a sense of urgency or even panic
that's hard to shake. You can fall into flight or fight mode without even
realizing it, and even get a little addicted about keeping that urgency
going.
On top of this, our culture generally encourages us to
over-commit. We try to do it all, fit it all in, and take it all on. This can be
overstimulating and draining as well. You might even start buying into the
rationale that you DO have to do it ALL, that the world WILL end if you don't
get it done, and that you have to HURRY UP about it. So you go into hyper-drive
while feeling exhausted at the same time, psychically, emotionally, physically,
and mentally. It's enough to make this sensitive soul say, "Stop the
madness!"
Other contributing factors lead us to overspending in the
energy department. For instance, you may find yourself "over-giving." Many
sensitives have a real knack for putting other people first and giving out far
more than they are receiving. Sometimes this can feel like a survival strategy.
You may trap yourself, thinking that if you can *just* get the people around you
to feel better, then you will feel better yourself. Giving away your energy this
way is another way of feeling drained. And once you're drained, more
overstimulation isn't far behind. It's a downward spiral that can quickly gain
momentum if left unchecked.
So
what's a sensitive soul to do? Step 1. Make a Course
Correction
You can take your power back by stopping to look
critically at what you're doing and why you're doing it. Drop anything and
everything that isn't aligned with your *own* highest priorities, and give
yourself permission to seriously reconsider other events and plans. As a
sensitive soul, you absolutely have to prioritize your self-care and learn to
manage your schedule and energy well, or you jeopardize your ability to engage
with others or do your soul's work with any real impact.
When I get too
busy, I do exactly this kind of strategizing, focused on rebalancing my energy.
The first clue that I've entered the "spin cycle" of over-doing and over-giving
is when I start feeling cranky or resentful. These powerful emotional messengers
always get my attention and get me into action to course-correct. It's a
powerful reminder of "oxygen-mask thinking" -- that in order to support the
people who rely on me, I had to put on my own oxygen-mask FIRST by taking the
time to renew my own
energy.
Step
2. Recharge Your Energy
Once
you re-orient your schedule and your life to your own priorities, including your
own self-care, take some time to recharge before forging ahead. Sometimes you
can get so "spun out" that you can't think of a single thing that will help. I
recommend creating a list of activities, people, and environments that recharge,
renew, and enhance your energy. Then when you're in crisis mode, you can get out
your list and remember how to come back to yourself.
To
get you started thinking about what works for you, here are some things that
work for me:
Reading comic books Reading "girl"
magazines Doing spa-at-home treatments Getting a massage Taking
Epsom salts baths Talking to close, mutually supportive friends (No energy
vampires!) Snuggling with my sweetie and/or my kitties Collaging and
cutting out magazine pictures Reading science fiction books Eating
popcorn, drinking kombucha, and reading in the blue chair Looking at Barbie
dolls at Mr. Mopp's Listening to music on iTunes, www.pandora.com, or
favorite CDs Pulling oracle cards Meditating Listening to the work
of Sonia Choquette Getting outside Being in the sunshine Prowling at
Long's or Elephant Pharmacy Playing games Coloring in coloring books
These simple yet playful and nourishing activities bring me back to myself
and help me return to my efforts renewed. So now it's your turn. Make a
list: What recharges your
energy?
Copyright
February 2006, Jennifer K. Avery
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may be published on your website or in your e-zine as long as the copyright
notice and this complete note are included: Jenna Avery, the Life Coach for
Sensitive Souls, offers an original coaching program designed to guide highly
sensitive souls to a deep sense of inner rightness, so they are inspired to step
forward and shine. You're invited to visit her website at
www.highlysensitivesouls.com to take her free online assessment, "Is Your
Sensitivity Working For
You?"<>